Lately I have been seeing a lot of things like this around:
Find fulfillment in yourself, only you can change you.
Fulfillment: 10 Steps to loving your life.
Every change begins with your first step. Be strong enough to take it.
Fulfillment doesn't come from your partner, it comes from within.
Or pictures like this:
Now, at first glance, this looks like not such a bad thing, find your fulfillment in yourself, don't feel you need a partner or friend to be your fulfillment/change your life.
But there is something deeply wrong with this statement.
And this sentiment is everywhere in our culture. The 'me' focused attitude.
I'm telling you right now folks, if you try to find fulfillment in yourself... you never will. Ever.
Christ is the only way you will find fulfillment. Christ is the only way you will ever find fulfillment in this life. You won't find fulfillment in a husband, in friends, in self actualization, in partying, or in clothing.
Women are built with deep desires for emotional and social closeness. And we seek to fill this need with people, especially our husbands. We spend years hunting for the 'perfect man', for 'prince charming', only to find that once the shining armor comes off, that Prince Charming is just another guy who farts and has faults... just like everyone else. You try to make it work, but just like you're not perfect, he's not perfect, and something goes missing. Some need of yours is unmet. You decide he can't make you happy, so you leave.
And that is perfectly acceptable in this world.
No wonder the divorce rate is so high.
No man will ever make you fully happy. Ever.
The way to deal with that is lean on Christ. All of those things you need and want, Christ alone can fill them all. Christ will be the one person who will.
When you feel like all the world is closing in and you're so alone... lean on Christ, and HE will be the one to fill your every longing.